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March 6, 2008 at 1:19 am 23 comments

I know this is a question that has been asked before by many many other people and now that the euphoria of seeing Mr half is gone, I have to ask, can anyone tell me of a long distance relationship that worked? Couz am struggling and sometimes I even forget what Mr half looks like (stop rolling your eyes at me! am fickle)

Iam one of those misguided people who believe that there are situations when adultery is understandable. Wait a minute am not trying to be contrary but how long can a person be expected to remain faithful? (and this is not about me- am the faithful type! 🙂 ) Lets take a case where one partner goes abroad to lets say study for like 5 years, and there is no way the other partner can manage to visit regularly. Can you honestly tell me that this guy will remain faithful? Me thinks not! Its unrealistic and near impossible. What is the longest that anyone can be expected to vumilia? Me (I ) say one year MAX! I believe in that corrupted saying absence makes the heart go yonder!

And this days its not only the men who are playing away games, I have friends here who are chicks and doing the same and they havent been here for more than a year. So if you know otherwise hebu tell me?

Swiftly moving on, do we now have a single party in Kenya? Ama miracle Kalonzo is the official opposition?

AOB

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  • 1. phassie  |  March 6, 2008 at 5:11 am

    I was in one of those LR, unfortunately it ended, but amicably. It is tough!

    Just let it be when the time comes.

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  • 2. sunnykay9  |  March 6, 2008 at 5:14 am

    I have seen that the absence is getting to a lot of peeps. Especially when there is a long stay away and when the logistics of communication are tech sana. But what ever happened to the good old days of snail mail when that was all that held together some of our parents?
    I am as puzzled…but I am also asking like you…cheers

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  • 3. Seasons  |  March 6, 2008 at 8:05 am

    Long distance relationships don’t work unless you decide to ignore the fact that eother party may..no..WILL cheat

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  • 4. pilato  |  March 6, 2008 at 10:15 am

    I have been in a long distance relationship for the past 2 years ..my girl and I are 6000 miles apart and have not met in the last 16 months years..I play outside matches once in a while but nothing serious..I make sure i don’t play it with the same team next time because i dont want to catch other feelings…
    Long distance love does work..or so i think

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  • 5. threetypesofcrazy  |  March 6, 2008 at 10:30 am

    oh something I actually have very string views about. Can they work? WHY NOT?
    Here is how I look at it, if you were in the same place when you started going out and then one of you had to move- sit down and talk. 1)Do you end the relationship(not ending it while thinking yo are going to “cheat” is being selfish!)

    2)or is the other party going to move as well or

    3)If you both choose to stay as a couple then you have chosen to remain faithful to each other

    If however the relationship started while one of you was already far- kwani sii you again TALK it through before you get involved.

    1)Is one of you going to move? Okay if you are thinking why move for someone else- then do not get into the relationship in the first place.

    2)If being physical is very important to you- then do not get into it and for crying out loud- do not “experiment” with other people’s lives i.e. don’t say let me see IF this will work.

    I believe that someone who is going to cheat will do it whether you are next door or far off.You DO NOT CHEAT because someone is far-YOU cheat because you choose to.

    QUESTION.
    What do people do when they are not in a relationship for three-four years?

    Do you adopt new sisters or brothers when they live far away and you only see each other at Christmas?

    Relationship has to have an element of love- and if we choose to treat the other person as we would be treated- then really the fair thing to do would be to let them go and go ahead to love the one you are with ama really do love the other person and work towards them.

    I think you can not cheat on someone and claim to love them at the same time.

    Yes, distance may play a part but let us take responsibility for our actions too. It starts in the mind.Okay sorry for the mini post.

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  • 6. threetypesofcrazy  |  March 6, 2008 at 10:31 am

    and kweli it is a post- POLE, POLE, POLE

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  • 7. Gish  |  March 6, 2008 at 6:02 pm

    No i dont think, and if yes its alot of work and sacrifice. As kelitu said once, if its not within calling distance i dont want it.

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  • 8. farmgal  |  March 6, 2008 at 6:22 pm

    heheheh long distance is tricky but can be done…it all depends on how soon one of you is moving to be with the other.

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  • 9. Maua  |  March 6, 2008 at 7:11 pm

    Long distance relationships!!!, they are hard. I gave up on my man due to distance, and I’ve found him again on facebook. All I’m saying, if it’s meant to be, it’ll be.

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  • 10. 3N  |  March 6, 2008 at 10:14 pm

    LDRs can only work if you are able to visit each other at least every two months or so.

    its not even the cheating but rather seeing someone’s face and the simple things like the way they smile or laugh…its not the same when that is physically taken away.

    that’s why physical nourishment is important and I would put the maximum time away from each other with no break at 3 months.

    If both of you know that you are going to be away from each other for a year or more just agree to let each other go and if it was meant to be it will happen.

    Marriage on the other hand is a whole different animal but still a long shot to work.

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  • 11. acolyte  |  March 7, 2008 at 12:56 am

    Hmmmmmm for some people they work and for others they don’t. I for one only advise them for married people.

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  • 12. Kirima  |  March 7, 2008 at 9:22 am

    I know very many Close Distance Relationships that don’t work too! Therefore distance is not the only reason for failure of a relationship, you can still have good communication at long distance but lack of intimacy can be a major bummer.

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  • 13. Nakeel  |  March 8, 2008 at 3:46 pm

    Its all about making sacrifices and knowing whether the person you making the sacrifices for them is worthy it.

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  • 14. Wanja Kihii  |  March 10, 2008 at 1:40 pm

    LOL @”I believe in that corrupted saying absence makes the heart go yonder!”
    Long distance relationships; hiyo sijui 😉

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  • 15. majonzi  |  March 12, 2008 at 1:28 am

    I think it can work, but on many levels cheating is the least of your worries. When folks live apart, they experience difference things, and grow, mature differently… so its very easy to grow apart so that when you get back together, you dont recognize your partner anymore.

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  • 16. kip  |  March 12, 2008 at 7:20 am

    Jesus was never violent. He was a democrat who believed in free will. Not once did He order his disciples to stone those opposed to His teachings

    decipher

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  • 17. bomseh  |  March 12, 2008 at 2:37 pm

    I will keeo repeating that distance to love is like wind to fire, it rekindles the great and diminishes the little.

    LDR’s can work, not all succeed but they can work. I have been king of LDR for many years. To answer 3TOC on her question,

    “What do people do when they are not in a relationship for three-four years?”

    They ride the BT. They have friends with benefits. These are different from loved ones.

    Anyway, I have been in an LDR that started physically and it ended when I failed to get back to her last Dec. Now I am trying the opposite, starting a relationship online that will end with us being together rather than starting things together then ending up online. Makes sense? Aii.

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  • 18. Half n Half  |  March 13, 2008 at 1:35 am

    Haya… Fingers crossed for all who are in LDRs
    @Kip: many many many times fail to decipher what you say!

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  • 19. Mwangi - the Displaced African  |  March 13, 2008 at 5:51 pm

    I have never seen one that has worked – either the girl was cheating or the man was – but I am anxious to see any that do.

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  • 20. Mountain/ HILL climbing « Half n Half  |  April 22, 2008 at 2:05 am

    […] matter, do we still have space in the BT train? I loose track of who is there right now!  I was right all along, Absence really does make the heart go […]

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  • 21. archer  |  April 27, 2008 at 2:41 pm

    Absence makes the loins seek yonder is more like it. Ati one year? Yaani 12 months/365.25 days? 52 weeks? Bila khurandula? Aii Half, those are jokes. I say 3 months max.

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  • 22. archer  |  April 27, 2008 at 2:47 pm

    And LDRs should be renamed “Textual Relationships” coz all you do is sms each other ma sweet nothings, email & send kisses and chocolate & naughty gifts on Facebook.

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  • 23. kip  |  April 28, 2008 at 10:05 am

    lol @archer.. so after the textual rlnship what happens

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